Men want ROMANCE too!!

Yesterday a female friend of mine said she was taking her boyfriend to lunch and I was proud of her for paying the extra attention to him until she said she was taking him to Chefette.
For those who don't know Chefette is a fast food restaurant in Barbados - and though there is nothing wrong with taking your spouse to Chefette or any other fast food place if they like fast food, I found myself thinking about the women that complained when a date took them to lunch at a fast food restaurant.

Now I know some of you are getting ready to put me on blast, so let me get to the point fast. Again, there is nothing wrong with going to a fast food place, SOME women don't care where a man takes them as long as they can spend time with him and other women will not give the time of day to any man who won't spend a pretty penny on their desires. What I do know for sure is that the average woman, no matter what category she falls into, wants her boyfriend/husband/date to put a little extra effort into making them feel special, which is what a spouse supposed to do. So let's flip the script.

Many women are always complaining there is no romance in their relationship, so here is where I get to the heart of the matter. As a woman - are YOU creating any?
Why is it that some women feel romance is limited to them alone? Don't men want romance too?

People keep saying men have failed society, but I think it is society that has failed our men by placing these expectations on them of the image they should uphold.
Men are supposed to be hard, thick skinned and never cry, yet they are supposed to know how to rub a woman's feet, give her candlelit dinner and be sensitive to her pre-menstrual emotions?
Women complain men don't know how to treat them, but they never show them how to and on the back of it, some hardly ever consider a man wants to feel special and loved just as they do.

True, they are many men that extend romance as far as their X-box game consoles, or maybe that is what they have become used to. His face may morph into one of pure horror at the suggestion of a candle lit dinner or seaside stroll, but because he is apprehensive doesn't mean you should not try, chances are he may like it or he may very well get to like it and create with you a new ritual that you can call your own and store in your memories. Sometimes people only need a little pull or push out of their comfort zones.
It is not the "romantic" thing in itself that counts, it is the fact that you took the time and effort to make him feel needed and wanted and loved.
Don't be fooled, men need to feel those things as much as women do. 

There is no need to go out of budget for expensive seafood restaurants, yes, you could very well go to Chefette and find romance in a milkshake, but if you eat out all the time, try something new. As a beautician I gave some of my boyfriends pedicures- some I almost had to tie to the chair because they thought it was so unmanly and swore to never tell their male friends ever, and some wanted to show their feet off to the world and tell everyone. That may not seem romantic to you, but a little attention can mean a lot.

Next time you and your boyfriend go out, or eat out...PAY! that can be as wonderful as a weekend at the Hilton Hotel.

So my ladies, if you are in a relationship today, make a little extra effort.
(Guys you can thank me later)


Bisous!!xoxo