The skinny of it...

I have always wondered why it is that when I am called skinny or bone bird I never take offence, yet to say the word fat in 2013 is like a criminal offence that will have hoards of big girls wanting to stampede your house and loved ones.
WHY are big women so offended by the term fat? Skinny is skinny and that is how you describe it (I remember a few skinny women being insisted on called petite due to their own self-esteem issues, but I never cared either way what I was called). Yet there are a million other phrases I have to remember to use to describe a big woman as to not offend her. She is big boned, thick, heavy, chunky, large, thick set. She is even a curvy diva.

I have been told I do not understand the "struggle" as I have grown up in the era where it is acceptable to be rail thin thanks to the Victoria Secret lingerie models whose ribs can clearly be counted from miles away.

I realize society has shed much negative light on big women, portraying them as unhealthy eaters who are prone to develop more diseases than a woman weighing significantly less. But there are two sides of the scale (no pun intended). There will be harmful effects on the body if you are a three hundred pound plus adult female the same as there will be if you are an adult female weighing seventy pounds.
Those are the extremes.

When we focus on weight, fat or thin, we have to focus on HEALTH. The rate of metabolism of a woman, her genetics, DNA, etc... determines the weight and the control of the weight of a woman. Which is often something one often does not have much control over.
I could not gain fifteen pounds in any one year no matter how much I ate. Likewise some people find it difficult to loose fifteen pounds no matter how much they exercise or cease to eat.


I have never had a "problem" with thick women. I have never had the urge to call anyone a fat bitch. Yet it seems the "thick revolution" wishes to shed a negative light on women who are thin with their slogans of REAL WOMEN HAVE CURVES.
Spare me the B.S. Real women can cook, are employed, have goals and don't go around trash talking people because they don't WEIGH the same as they do.

Dove's REAL BEAUTY campaign sought to assure women that ALL women of ALL sizes and colors and shapes are beautiful.
On it's own I think the poster stood out quite well and the message was successfully delivered and I agreed one hundred percent. But when run alongside a Victoria Secret ad it what did it suggest?
Real women have curves. You don't need to be skinny to be beautiful. And even though, again, I believe that is true, thick women are throwing it all out on the flip by attempting to make thin women seem like the inferior.

It is not the skinny women that have been making you feel inferior all these years. It is not even the model industry or the media, as much as they were the ones who have held the reins and guided the horse. IT WAS YOU who made yourself feel worthless minding what society said was beautiful.

I have not heard ONE single skinny woman complain or bitch how the thick woman campaign insults them.  I have not seen one skinny woman get upset when the Plus sized model revolution was stared. Not one skinny model complained that there would be less work for them or less money to go around in the industry of modelling. NOT ONE skinny woman batted an eye when the thick women said skinny was "out of style".
Yet, in spite of all of this curvy diva-tude, if I say the word fat, I am looked upon with disgust.

The media will always flow in the direction of the cash flow. If skinny makes the money, or fat or natural hair or weaves - there will the media be, telling you this is what is beautiful and in and accepted. You will always be fighting the standards of "society" if you do not fit them.

I say to you ladies, fat or skinny, thick or thin, even black or white. We all have issues. We all worry about looks and body shape and hair and acne. We all face the time of wondering about our futures, should we have kids, get married, take that job or the next, invest in stock or have a life insurance policy.
YOUR WEIGHT DOES NOT MAKE YOU ANY MORE OR LESS OF A PERSON, but your attitude does.

You DO NOT have to bring someone else down to lift yourself up. Try to remember that.