Honey, It's a Weave.

I am sure upon reading the title you thought it was going to be another post on female hair wars. When a message popped up in my phone last night that read "is he wearing a weave?" I thought the he was a common typo that should have read she - that was, until the photo below popped up as well.

Well, Lord knows I had a good belly laugh for a minute at the pic and caption combined, but I really forced myself to stop and think (Yes, think, that think you do with your brain that most young people seem to lack the skill to do) How do I feel about this? I mean, really feel about this.

A male friend of mine considers any man that follows the same beauty trends, fashions, or regime as a female is homosexual and no one can change his opinion on the subject. He was mad beyond words at this photo.(he has a sexy bald head by the way)
But this picture made a lot of questions surface in my mind.
One - Don't men suffer from self esteem issues just as women do? It is obvious in the photo the man is losing hair or has a receding hairline and the hair is an attempt to cover it which means he is not comfortable with how his hair looks. Also - his natural hair is "kinky" but the finished installation is wavy and soft in texture, which is another implication that he wants a look different to his own. Does that make him less masculine?
Two - Don't women do this everyday? is it acceptable for a woman to want a different hair texture, color and style, but not a male? Men do have the same desire to feel sexy and attractive to the opposite sex as women do.
Three - Why not cut all off and go bald? Who said women should have a head of full thick locks and not men? Why aren't men entitled to want curly coils and waves? Has society made us believe hair is a representation of beauty and self esteem only for a woman? Were we not all born with hair that if uncut would grow with no end?
Four - Women wear pants, play sports, work in construction and other things once thought to be male only arenas. Now in this modern day, men have manicures, pedicures and facials once thought to be female beauty treatments. So does male hair "weaves" now fit into that bracket along with the male legging and nail polish for men as once sported by Brad Pitt? Or are some things just too much?

I cannot recall when I first became familiar with female weave, but I do recall in my younger years being familiar with the "toupee" and it was common in movies to see a Caucasian male wearing a piece of fitted hair to cover his balding areas. This was acceptable to me due to the fact that white males usually had a large amount of hair on their heads, while black males either had locks or kept their hair low, so I saw no reason for a black male to want a hair piece.
So, is this really another Caucasian trend filtering into the black community?

My take on the subject is this. Sometimes, women and men are really much alike. They all share many of the same issues, with self esteem and sex appeal. Men are taught to approach these issues different than women.
If you are a woman who is bald and you wear a wig or hair piece, you would expect a man to be okay with that. but if he told you HE was wearing a wig or a piece, could you accept that? Would you accept it if he was white but not black?

Is this a homosexual issue? A self esteem issue? Has the world gone mad?
My verdict will have to be this - everyone has a reason for everything they do. Before we judge we should seek to discover what that reason is. As crazy as this may sound, if I meet a man wearing fake hair, what could I say? I wear it too. I just don't want him wearing mine.

Bisous!!xoxo


PS - Today is world kindness day, so be kind to someone today!